When in doubt… knit it out (or whatever works)

A look inside creativity as a helpful outlet

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about creativity and how it’s helped make the everyday routines, structures and schedules of life more interesting, especially as I’ve been taking a gentle hiatus from writing and focused on other creative endeavours. Whether it’s been more baking, or in learning to knit or most recently in pastel work I’ve come into great insights on how pursuing these interests has helped add something to look forward to in day-to-day life and how each endeavour is it’s own creative adventure.

There are two main thoughts that each experience seemed to have in common for it to be helpful and worth continually pursuing. The first is it simply has to inspire me, and somehow aid in my curiosity to learn and explore as a outlet but with that said it also has to work for my own individual purposes and makes sense to me. Which varies depending on how I chosen to approach it. These are the initial thoughts I had going into each new month and being open to what it’s brought. Upon closer look I’ve discovered that diving in these creative projects there’s a third bonus and that is taking up any of these; whether it be knitting, planning next baking days or finding my confidence in using pastels; has not only given me new ways to be creative but acted as incentive to get through the week.  I can go into work knowing that my reward for getting through is awaiting me at home. Almost like my own version of saving and planning for future trips, only instead of trips it’s projects to look forward to and plan.

This creative adventure has led me to some wonderful pastimes and ways to cope when things get long, tough or tiring without going far from home.  I’ve gotten a new lease on my life and found excitement in what I do everyday to help make it more exciting when at the moment I’ve felt unprepared to travel far again. Keep in mind, that it doesn’t have to be creative adventures for you that’s just what worked for me. It could be anything you are involved in whether once a week, or twice, everyday or every few weeks that helps make where you or I are at more interesting, manageable or fun while we wish and dream for grander adventures far away.

That’s it for now,

The Curious Creative and Introverted Butterfly (P.S. It’s good to be back!)

Quote for the Week:

“Energy creates energy. It is by spending myself that I become richer”~ Sarah Bernhardt

This is one of those quotes, where I can agree and disagree with what it’s author is proclaiming. That when you are doing something or participating in experiences-essentially enjoying life- then you’re adding to your stamina and enriching your life. As someone who has worked to create an openness to new experiences and likes to try new things I agree that our lives are enriched when we reach outside of our comfort zones and do something out of the ordinary. that we haven’t done before. As mentioned

in my previous post titled “A Message on New Experiences and Openness” I have tried several in the last few years or so. All of which, have given me either different tools to use through navigating life or a new pastime/joy to call upon when feeling down. There is then so much more to my life now, other than just working and writing but many in which my life is fulfilled and richer. The experiences that create a much more fulfilling and positive life. Which is what she might have been referring to in this quote by saying “by spending myself I become richer”

I also know there times when the fulfillment in my life personally, comes from taking a step back, giving myself some space to think and reflebank-wilson-2-1-review-clipartct on everything that has happened in that last little while, really taking it all in and appreciating those opportunities. Which the only real way to really do that is in rest or stillness where no spending is necessary. It is then by saving our energy at some point are we able to have enough for future endeavours without over spending oneself. Like a bank account, there needs to be some spending energy in order to be able to enjoy those enriching opportunities.

Either way, I want to point out that as in all aspects and activities of life it’s important to create balance for yourself and know when to bring that into what you do- including how you spend yourself-. Not only in terms of well-being but also to be able to give your best and most present self in the moments that count. So, yes! Take chances, create or participant in new experiences that will enrich your life but be sure to fill up your energy and rest once in a while or slow down when it’s best for you. I know life can be a balancing act sometimes and we’re all different but hopefully these thoughts help make sense of how important it is to take time for yourself (when not spending your energy), while also getting out there to experience new things.

life-photo-quote_6428-0This is just my understanding of it, because from personal experience the opposite can be said for most introverts (or anyone on that side of the scale). That yes, we enjoy spending time with others, but sometimes how we create energy is by saving the little we have left and resting to create more or it can be that spending time with others takes more energy than it gives/replenishes. That’s just my opinion though, you’ll have to do some thinking to figure out for yourselves what it means, as it may vary depending on who you are and how you feel about participating in what is enriching for you. I’m interested to hear more though…

Do you agree, disagree, or somewhat agree with it? And which side to you find yourself more like- introvert/extrovert- either will depend on how you interpret what “spending myself” means.

 Introverted Butterfly

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The Blogger’s Journey

An Message on Perspective and Staying True

Hello All,

It seems over the past little while I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting on my writing, the journey it’s taken me on and how I’m planning to continue on with it. Yeah… some deep thinking here. Anyways, I’ve come into the conclusion that as a blogger it can be tricky at times  to write what best reflects this particular blogger but also try to make it relatable to others or hope it is on some level. Perhaps others have felt this too from time to time, that as much as it can be about your experiences there are others experiences and perspectives out there to be considered. To me, this means trying to be as authentic as one can be ,in my own experiences while being aware- even though I may not write about it- that others may not experience things the same as I do or have those same experiences to relate to as easy. I suppose the best one can do is write what’s true to you, meaning writing for yourself first and others second. Acknowledging that your perspective may not be the only one out there but can hope there’s some part of it others may find helpful along the way. I also make the conscious choice to keep things as positive as possible. With so much negativity out there in the world I chose to add positivity to our collective consciousness rather than more negative/bad vibes. This is how I chose to create my impact: add good vibes out there. It doesn’t mean I’m not aware of what else is happening, I just don’t want to add to it.

Blog Logo 3 For me, there is no other way to write than what it true, and often positive or ending on a positive note. So I’m going to accept this fact.  It might not always come easily but as long as I try to understand it then I think all will be well and helpful in times of conflicting feelings. After all, this experience is as much about me as it is for you. I’m writing my own insights- whether they are relatable or not-, and experiences to help me continue to grow and be inspired. There may be times when it’s message is just a simple reminder for me to get out there or there may be others that we can all learn more from. What’s important is that I stay true to my experience and authentic in my voice.That’s my goal, and believe what I’ll work on carrying through with this project.

Thanks all for continuing to tune in.

Introverted Butterfly

Marking My Year

What I’ve Learned and Looking forward to What’s to Come!

I’m always so amazed how fast time goes by within a year for me. It seems to sneak up to me as I look back and realize all that has gone by and what I’ve experienced and learned in that time. As I’ve gotten older and perhaps more aware of how I’ve grown and changed thoroughout my individual year, birthdays become much more important and meaningful to me. It becomes a time of year where this butterfly has started to really reflect on her transformation and growth in anticipation to what the following year can bring. Always being somewhat of an introspective individual it surprises me that I’ve never quite been so reflective sooner. Anyways, since I am blogging this year (only started blogging late June last year) I thought I’d take this time to share what I’ve learned of and from myself in the past year:

 

Butterfly’s 10 Lessons

  1. That nothing is impossible, as long as you put your will into it, you will find a way.
  2. (To go with 1): Also that nothing truly worth doing comes easy. Most times you have to really practice and work at it to get the rewards and then they will be worth waiting for.
  3. It’s okay to loosen your grip every once in a while, and trust balloons-25737_1280.pngwhen you do that things will be okay, in fact they might possibly be more than okay.
  4. It can be really fun and exciting to try new things. A little scary at first (sure), but well worth it in the end. Even more so if you are trying them with a friend!
  5. Life is always going to hand you surprises and unexpected twists, that in the end all that really matters is how you brush yourself off and carry on. Whatever you do- keep marching onward, it will get better.
  6. Sometimes the only opinion you need to listen to is your own. You always will have the right answers for you. You just need to listen and trust that what you come up with will be for the best. Take the time to listen and you might be surprised by what you come up with!
  7. Patience is really a virtue… and a tough one at that. Also one that needs to constantly be practiced
  8. Gratitude is crucial to happiness, but once more hard to practice at times.
  9. Enjoy the small moments, conversations and experiences because they’ll turn into the memoriable big things put together.
  10. Advice from my sister: “Always remember to feed the good wolf and never the bad wolf, if you want to live a positive life”

Introverted Butterfly

Going Away to Return to You!

A Lesson on Self Discovery and Being Open to New Experiences!

It is so interesting when you chose to go away somewhere-whether it’s through travelling to another place or country; taking a short trip or retreat- that you can learn so much about yourself and how comfortable you are of stepping outside your comfort zone. Just that alone can teach you about who you are, what you are capable of doing and how far you can grow, just from one or maybe more than one IMG_1392experience.

And this is how I felt having set intentions before going out on my own retreat hoping that I could realize them or even better see them through to come to some sort of understanding about why I needed to set those ones specifically. At the same time I was open to whatever else came of this journey that I agreed to go on knowing this was one of the experiences I decided to gift myself with- stuck in a rut and in need of a way to get out-. What happened following then surprised me (but pleasantly). I discovered so much more about who I am and who I am becoming throughout the course of this journey, but more importantly how much I had grown throughout the seasons (not just during but before). That I needed to give myself credit for that, and embrace this new exploration into who I am. Almost like a reclaiming of the self, amidst this discovery of believing myself as a worthy person and special enough for this journey. I became even more in tune with my inner truth and what makes me special by finding out who I am. With that in mind, I now believe the trick is-whenever you are going away or trying a newoman-570883_640w experience- is to be open to where it can lead and what you can learn from. Some times stepping outside or inside places (as it turned out for me) that aren’t in your comfort zone can teach you so much more about yourself then you’d ever believe. So not only by setting intentions on what you want to get out of a particular experience you can make the best of it, but by being open to anything else that might come up in the process it can surprise you and allow you to grow even more. Or as I discovered sometimes the true you just needs to be rediscovered in the process of going away to come back to oneself.

Truly Yours,

Introverted Butterfly

Finding Our Place (in a Friendship, amongst friends) Part 2

Finding my place as a friend, and realizing that has been a powerful self actualization for me, and can be for anyone tricky at the same time when we are just trying to figure out ourselves what makes us a worthwhile person- is it my listening? One may ask my advice? Showing up? Showing that I care? All questions that make finding answers or certainty in relationships difficult and doubting- some we may never quite get the answers to but if we know our place within it can be to feel more at ease on the outer side. I believe that us as introverts find this particularly challenging in what seems like a world/society that thrives in extrovert and those who pose confidently in who they are. If we don’t know who we are as individuals, it can be tricky to know who we are/what we bring as friends… You can’t be confident in the one without being confident in the first without getting lost in who you think that person wants you to be. And while, we or anyone cannot be everything for one individual, who we can be is our authentic selves the version of us that  our truest friends would want us to be. This comes from firstly knowing ourselves (thyself) and then finding our place(s).

Knowing thyself, allows us to let others know us in a truly authentic way. It may seem simple but it really is an empowering piece in believing your worthiness and the value you have as a friend. So, here’s a couple steps in finding our way:

  • When we truly value and know ourselves it becomes easier to figure out what we bring as friends, in groups or relationships. NO longer will we need to pretend to be anyone or anything else- other than us-.
  • We also by discovering our strengths, may find undiscovered interests and passions- use these to help you become more comfortable being in conversations (with conviction)
  • Lastly, all this is well and good, but only if you’re in the right company (and this most likely varies for each individual) but the underlying message is people who bring out the best in us and know how encourage that (intentionally or not).

Introverted Butterfly

Saying YES instead of NO!

Being Open to NEW Experiences!

This is relatively NEW concept for me that I am still learning to embrace, but already accepting this openness that life has to offer has shown me tremendous benefits. For someone who was barely brave enough to reach out for help or get out of her very set routines to make new connections, try something NEW and different or explore new places, I am now embracing the excitement of NEW. Rather than dreading what’s to come by feeling anxious, that has now begun to be replaced by (get this) the excitement of the uncharted, unexplored and un-experienced. You might like to try it… it’s much more easier on your psyche and you’ll be surprised as how FUN and EASY it is, you’ll want to continue on the YES track. Now, note chances are if your intuition is telling you clearly “no” then it’s probably something you should think twice about saying yes to. But as in most cases, if it is the right opportunity and there is no big red flags going off, then really the only thing stopping you is your own fears and yourself. So what do you say…

Would you -or are you already- willing to trying out YES more often, while being YOU?

Introverted Butterfly

Friendship Redefined

When I think “Friendship” and what it means, like most of us (I’m sure) I’ve realized that it is a different experience with each individual person I’ve connected with. One maybe more on the lighter side of things, while the other brings more depth- it has all depended on the individual. Just as we are all unique so are most of our friendships and so even as Oxford defines “friendship” as: “the feeling or relationship that friends have. A relationship between friends. A state of mutual trust and support.” (Oxford Dictionary, Second Edition, 2007) Friendship can be made up of many things so too does it’s definition which may fall under any one of those Oxford defined. It shows you how varied friendships can be, individual and person-by-person based. Each friendship though I believe contributes to who you are and how you interact with the world, while making up your tribe- the group that supports you, surrounds you and gives you that sense we all want to feel of being connected. Some may be deep, intellectual friendships while others may be based more on common interests and lighter things- but all are helpful in fulfilling what you need and giving you balance. As long as you trust yourself when forming these connections by following your heart, treasure each individual connection and what it brings you (as there are lessons learned from each connection) and remain open you hopefully can not go wrong.

Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”~ Anais Nin

As always BE YOU!

Introverted Butterfly