The Helpful Power of Words
Have you ever found yourself in the depths of despair? Confusion? or just plain seeking some new advice or a perspective? Perhaps you read to learn about yourself or the world, a particular subject or help you find out how to solve a particular problem?
I know that’s one of the many reasons I turn to the written word. After all, you can’t always turn to someone’s advice on certain situations- as helpful as they may be, there’s only so much they know, just like there is only so much you and I know. Heck, that’s why we read in the first place- to learn-. When I read the words of another’s perspective it can be incredibly helpful to sort out what I’m feeling or find ways to get over obstacles that leave me feeling stuck. It’s an extra awareness and insight that I might not have come to myself or perhaps had been close to but reluctant to hear. It seems then, that by doing this my education has continued past learning inside classrooms to the greater lessons in life, in out there experiencing all the new challenges out there that others have experienced.
When feeling uninspired, I turn to reading books on regaining inspiration, or frustrated in my writing- books on how to get over writer’s block, or get ideas on how to approach what I’m doing. I even have a small collection of books on blogging that I can go back to. My point is it never hurts to have too many books or never hurts to read. Sometimes, we just want to feel less alone and reading about others journey’s or tribulations can help us feel that way or you realize maybe your struggles aren’t just yours but everyone elses too.
There is nothing wrong with a little extra knowledge. In fact it may be what you need to get the understanding we all at times have seeked from new experiences, situations or frustrating old patterns. Thusly, you can never have too many books because with them you have many consellors on many different subjects. Like a team there helping you get through, using their experiences to create further understanding or expertise. That’s how wonderful it is to have books to rely on for some advice but also to believe in the power of how words can help! For I have realized this, and know there is nothing more important and worthwhile than spreading awareness, and insights as even a reader myself can appreciate!
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How I’m Trying to Worry Less About Gold Stars- Day 1: Initial Thoughts
So here’s the thing. The last little while I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and deep reflecting on this journey, of blogging and sharing. Asking a lot of questions of “why” and “what reasons” am I doing this. Wondering if it’s still been for my own enjoyment or whether I’ve put too much weight on the outcome (again) and need of approval from others. I’ve been known to seek gold stars from outside sources rather than within, for approval rather then just doing something for enjoyment.
I’ll admit although I may have started there. At a place of starting in a new adventure, for myself, from my heart and with no particular goal in numbers or stats- simply to just do it for myself out of curiousity. Once I got started, and found out how well I’ve been doing in the online world though, I may have gotten carried away with the numbers and my constant need to seek approval from outside sources rather then within . This is something that I’ve
struggled with throughout my life. Always getting reassurance from others around me rather than trusting myself that I’m on the right track or that I’m a good writer/whatever.
To sum up, in the needs approvement section of the proverbial report card would be: Caring less about what others think of what I’m doing, and trusting myself more. Although that’s been the one place where there’s been considerable improvement on not needing reassurance, perhaps when I put my writing out there that’s what’s changed things and a fear of not getting that has stopped me from continuing to put it out there more.
The aim: To begin to feel good about my writing without overly relying others approval/”likes” to motivate me to contiue on or feel good about what I am doing.
The plan for action is that I’m going to call it “The Gold Star Cleanse”, whereby I’ll continue to post whenever inspiration arises but will no longer obsesssively
check my stats, or views. If you stop by and comment I’ll still get notified but the aim is to see it, appreciate it and carry on. I’ll always be grateful but the difference is I won’t let the numbers determine how I feel about my writing, and will try my best to keep a poistive attitude no matter what.
(Stay tuned for more thoughts on this)
On Self Doubt and Getting Past It
So here’s my question of the day: “So why do we doubt ourselves?” I know we all do it and in the end it does nobody no good, but we seem to let it in anyways. I do at least. From previous reading and research on the subject it seems to come from a place of fear and thoughts of being enough (or more accurately, on being not enough). What seems particulary interesting is that once it starts popping in one area of our lives then there it is again in another. Like weeds, it takes over our perceptions of self, thoughts and abilities or what we believe we are capable of.
Have you ever had one of those days where it seems like everything around you is go…ing…so…sl..ow? Or like everything is either frustrating, or impossible bringing you right down in the dumps? Then you hear a song on the radio that seems to be helping brighten your day by somehow lifting your mood
If you’re into sports analogies, it could be like the song coaches play to amp up players before a big game to help get them in the right mindset. For the rest of us or those who aren’t quite so sports oriented consider the song (whatever it may be) as your personal anthem or cheer that gets you out of the blue on a dreary day, or perhaps when you feel like things can’t get any better or you’ve made a mistake and play the “what an idiot” game. We’ve all been there, when every mistake replays in our heads and everything we’ve done right has slipped our consciousness. This is the song that changes that, and can help you reclaim your day and perspective. To stop dwelling and begin turning things around.
The Post I’ve Been Meaning to Write
So here’s the thing. Sometimes we need to write something/anything just for the sake of getting it off our minds, or in my case just for the sake of keeping up writing which would be the previous post. This one though, I’ve wanted to approach this subject and post for a while because despite all odds I’ve managed to continually build on my writing and presence somehow out in the great wide web by no other means (that I can explain), then sticking at it. When times got tough, I continued to expand my thinking and when things came naturally I never took them for granted. Either way, I continued to write and it paid off.
Persistence that is. It goes right along with practice, patience and pleasure. Doing something just for the sake of doing it, for your own enjoyment. Which I suppose if you always write with those thoughts in mind then it’s always paying off because its payoff is the enjoyment of writing. Not in the outcome or recognition but its pleasure. This is also the model I’ve been somewhat following throughout this journey. Writing what feels right in my heart and because I enjoy sharing any insights that come my way not for the recognition other than my own, or popularity or even extra attention. Just from a place of wanting to do this, sharing my passions and observations with whoever else is out there, and as a learning experience because we all know there is lots to be learned out there.
So when good comes out of it, or I catch a break from all this effort
I’ve put into what I’m doing it’s like an extra cool bonus gift (like the buy one get one free effect or purchase this and receive this as free although not really-). The encouragement and support I get helps along the way when I get discouraged but I don’t always rely on that for all reasons to continue writing. Essentially, what I’m try to say is I do it for myself most of the time. To get my thoughts out there or set reminders (a.k.a. the notes to self category) of encouragement for me to go back to when I need a dose of my own words which has been helpful. In this sense, my persistence has always seemed to be payoff in that the reward was writing and doing it for myself. Sometimes, it good to celebrate other successes along the way to show your appreciation for whatever feedback you receive back and as a nice way to recognize your own efforts. So, here I am saying that it also feels good that I’m making an impact out there and am reaching all sorts of people. As you’ll find in anyway we put ourselves out there sometimes the reward is just that we’ve done that much, and anything else that comes from it is a bonus as hopefully every once in a while that persistence pays off and recognition comes your way.
*Author’s note: So thank-you for allowing me to write this, and celebrating this for myself.*
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“You Miss 100% of the Shots You Don’t Take!”~ Wayne Gretzky
Sitting here, reflecting on everything I’ve felt and that’s happened in the last week. Simply taking stock of what I’ve been feeling and all that’s been happening this past little while realizing that I’ve had nothing to lose when it’s come to putting myself out there. Which has been a big obstabcle I believe in holding me back from being braver and putting myself and my work out there more often or taking advantage of great opportunities. Literally I’ve been mulling over the what-if’s and the worst case scenerios of what could happen when I haven’t even allowed those things to happen yet.
Man, why do our minds always take us in that direction?
It’s always the “worst-case” scenerios, what if it was just “this happened.” No, best or worst, but looking at it as either way the outcome was exactly that- an outcome-, and what you take away from it is a lesson. Whether you feel like being a little braver next time or discover that maybe you need a bit more practice before trying again. At least, at this point you know better and can learn. Really, it’s impossible to learn if you don’t try. So now, as I’m writing on this I realize that was the message all along- right under my stinkin’ fearful nose. “You never know til you try.”
I can guarntee you won’t get any clearer idea of where to go, what to do or how to improve next if you always mull things over. Where you will get some value and insight is by simply trying. I can’t tell you how many new things I’ve tried- including this blog-, and have both gotten better through trying, while learned a lot from the experiences. So it’s worthwhile, and you won’t know how to practice and improve unless you try. All things take practice- that’s a given fact, what they also take is the courage to try. Suddenly, this quote that I’ve read so many times makes sense in a whole new way. No long is it just interesting but now it’s a realization, an “ahhh, I see” reaction.
How’s that for some Friday motivation for you!
This post is for everyone out there who inspired me to try something new, for that I thank-you, and who continues to inspire me to keep trying new things.
Hope you find this helpful, and as motivational as I did.
Thoughts of Gratitude, from a very grateful blogger
Hello Fellow Followers, Readers and Blog Checker-Outers,
I just wanted to send a quick note out saying thanks. Thanks for supporting me in this ongoing adventure, and for stopping by my small but heartfelt blog, for showing interest and listening in on what I have to say. It is always appreciated (greatly), not that I’m relying on all of you to solely help me continue to move forward with it, but your visits and occasional comments are always an extra boost when I’m feel down, or frustrated with what I’m doing. I had promised myself, when I hit 30 followers that I’d send out another note, just to let you guys know I still appreciate and will always appreciate you giving me and my blog a chance.
I also want send warm wishes, and happy blogging/writing successes in your endeavours, as we are all on this journey together. Hope you can continue to enjoy your work, as I enjoy mine.
Again much gratitude,
Let good energy in and bad energy out.
Have you ever found yourself in a funke or sitting with some stagnant energy that you’re finding hard to shake or get inspired to do something, anything to get rid of that heavy energy off your shoulders, so your day come move from unproductive to productive?
I know I have and it seems to effect my whole outlook on the day. It’s that lathargic, don’t feel like doing anything slum we all get in that seems connected to everything. If I’ve not feeling that peppy, motivated or good about myself it’s harder to write something of that nature, or anything for that matter. And when I feel like I can’t write then that energy seems to easily transfer onto other feelings of have of myself as having anything worthy of thinking or feeling. Essentially, finding myself in a very unqiue funke (again). It seems until I’ve done something to move that energy or take action, my focus as well seems hard to find at these times.
So now comes the fun, helpful seemingly easy part that might help answer the question of “What can I do?”
The answer- anything! Anything that gets us moving and active to work through whatever is holding us back in that stuck place. Sometimes, it takes going out and getting what you can done, done or as I’m learning something as simple as going for a walk. After all, it seems the weather is warming up as Spring finally comes, and is encouraging to get out and about. We might as well take advantage of it, as the act of movement itself can help you move past whatever may be holding you back. I’ve read it in countless books, from many people and can even attest to this myself as well (yes, I actually do intend on trying this technique as well). When feeling stagnant or down there seems to be no greater cure than walking it off rathering then continuing to let it drag you down.
Don’t believe me… try it for yourself- as will I in the next little while- and let me know how it goes!