I’ve been sitting here, thinking about yet another roller coaster I’ve been on this past couple of weeks. For no particular reason, other than I can only hope it’s come to show me where I still need to grow and how I can take all I’ve been feeling to motivate me in future endeavors. Almost like it’s side of the conversation has been:
“So you’re feeling stuck in life. Let me show you stuck.” Or “Don’t let another opportunity pass you by. Seize them and let them help you in moving forward or being brave.” “Now, is the time to do these things- not 5 or 10 years down the road. Now for heaven’s sake is the time to act on your desires, wishes, passions and explore!”
To which I’ve been in the habit of responding: “What if I can’t figure this out?” or “how am I supposed to find the means or time to do that?”
Its answer is always this message and quote is: “If something is important to you, you’ll find a reason. If it’s not, then you’ll find an excuse.” This is what motivates me to continue writing, and blogging. It helps me come from being stuck, to choosing decisions that are closer to my overall goal. Having this in the back of my mind, and the very helpful framed card on my desk that reads: “Only those who risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.” This advice I love from T.S. Elliot, not only for writing but in life- the only way we can find out how far we’re willing to reach and grow is by challenging ourselves. Stepping outside of what we normally would, and taking chances with hopeful minds that it will turn out well.
Dearest Inner Butterfly,
Over the last little while, as you can probably tell, I’ve been struggling with how to move forward and take important steps in my own life. So, I’m not just mentioning these thoughts to you but wanting to live them as best I can too. I believe it is one thing to talk the talk, but a whole different one to walk the walk, as I’ve heard. Which is exactly the part that I’ve been trying to figure out- “how can I be brave, and walk the walk in my life?”. One example would be that I’ve been “talking” about is sharing my stories and experiences with others that might be going through similar experiences in letting them know, they are not alone. But I haven’t been very brave in putting my stories out there. I always seem to find a reason to hesitate or not to do it. Either I’d say “it’s too early” or “it’s not ready yet” or “where do I begin?” All answerable questions: “it’s never too early or too late.” “Work on it, one thing at a time.” “Be willing to start somewhere” Lastly “Just write, as easy as that.”
So, you see. It possibly wasn’t the questions but as I found out what’s behind them. And to me, that came down to fear, as I’ve felt for some time. I just didn’t know of what. “Not being important”- Nope, and if that was it, then I’ve been writing for the wrong reasons all along. “Of what others would think.” Again, same answer as before. “Of failing”- possibly, and we all are at some point.
My fear-unique to me- ended up being was in realizing that I could have an impact on others in a powerful way, and my role in inspiring them. I’ve figured out that I’ve become too comfortable being in the background, and used to my environment changing me rather than me changing it. Thinking it was far easier for me to be inspired by others, and that the reverse was far too out there. Or much like the caterpillar, who is only comfortable taking small calculated risks from flower to flower. I too have been too comfortable only inspiring myself and others from a distance. I’ve been uncertain of how far my potential can take me and possibly change history that evening take the first steps seemed gigantic and too much. Afraid to open the full span of my wings, and take flight. I realized that I’ve gotten too comfortable in the place I am at. As the familiar provides me with security and safety. While the other option is the unknown, and those things are yet to be realized, with a whole world full of questions. While in the mean time I’ve still been dreaming of what else is out there, and how far I could go. Not a very brave butterfly, after all. I’ve always wanted to explore what else is out there, but have been too timid to take those steps into flight. Perhaps, though it’s time to do so and see how far my wings can carry me.
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Your Own Personal Mediator
I find that perspective is one of our greatest tools to becoming level headed and gaining understanding. Yet when we need it most in the midst of uncertainty and tumultuous emotions it can be tricky to grasp. As our judgment becomes clouded by a mirage of emotions and sometimes the only side we can see is our own, taking a step back is often the last thing on our minds. But is the best thing to do in such cases. Trust me, I’ve been there -many times- and can speak from all experiences. I know the feeling of being torn between what our head is advising us to do and our emotions urging us to act on, immediately you become caught in a tug of war with both sides. It doesn’t matter that the storm may pass or eventually you’ll be able to think more clearly because then and there it seems what is happening is the end all be all. Consider this, though, as my own logic shows during these times, that the feeling of being overwhelmed, stressed or on edge never lasts very long. Before you know it, life and you have moved on. The feeling is no longer, suddenly that reaction wasn’t worth it.
Perspective. When the heart is pulling you one way and your mind the other way. Either willing to back down, it’s the mediator that proves to be helpful in settling many disputes. When all the shots are done being fired and there’s nothing but smoke in the air. It’s there sifting through the rubble finding and allowing you to see the thoughts that still remain, and whether there’s a conclusion still insight.
Whatever’s left, you should try to follow. These are the irrefutable truths that both head and heart can’t argue, and hold the key to revealing how you truly feel about a situation. Conveniently, though, they have neglected to bring these to your attention. So allow perspective to present them to you by giving yourself the time and space to settle down, and take a step back from the chaos in your mind. Allow it to come into whatever’s troubling you before jumping to any rash conclusions, decisions or actions. You’ll hopefully find the outcome much better if you try this technique first before acting on impulse. Allow your mediator to do it’s job and be open to any new insights that may come your way. Be you, and follow what is right.
There is so much said about making the most out of our lives. This idea is quoted many times and we all read these quotes inspired to follow them but sometimes aren’t quite sure what that means for us or whether we’ll even be able to take on more courage to do greater things. We hear advice such as: “we only have one life to live”; “take chances” risk getting your heart broken- at least once-” and one of my interesting favourites “Live a life of no regrets”. Now these are all fine and dandy if your comfortable following them and are clear on how they resonate with you, but perhaps we’re not always comfortable throwing caution to the wind and saying “heck yeah” to many opportunities. For those of us in this category, this analogy might help.
It’s another lovely one from Brene Brown’s book “Daring Greatly” that I might have talked about earlier in relating to vulnerability and taking chances realizing with all the advice of others (referred to as the people in the stands) that we’re the ones who have to face the consequences of our own risks and chances. Now, I’m going to take a different approach and say that it’s not just a metaphor in vulnerability but in participating in life. We don’t have to take the greatest adventures life has to offer- perhaps some aren’t even meant for us or say “yes” to everything that comes our way, but sometimes it’s okay for some. I believe that as long as we try new things, put ourselves out there and are doing something with this marvellous gift we’ve been given, then “Yes” we are truly living.
Moving closer to the arena floor and participating in our own lives from that place is the direction in which we should all, at least, try to aim for. When you think about it the arena isn’t just made up of a top and bottom but many levels closer and further from the main stage. Just like our own comfort zones have different levels of comfort we’re willing to step outside of, the arena itself does too. So, as long as we’re willing to participate in life and putting ourselves out there- whatever that looks like for us in the end that is what matters most, and to me, that’s the simplest definition of living truly, and following our own paths bravely.
So be You, and show the world what you got!
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Today, I’ve felt myself particularly inspired as it came on the radio by Tom Cochrane’s song “Life is a Highway”. I’ve heard many times before but this particular instance it’s lyrics and melody caught my attention as it reminded me of a previous post I did titled “Enjoying the Journey”on how life has many ups and downs, but that’s all part of what makes it a journey. Tom Cochrane sings about it by using the analogy of the highway to symbolize the path we take on our journeys. He also reminds us that as we are all riding along together, so we’re not as different as we believe. And if we’re going in similar directions, then we might as well go it together than alone. It reminds one to have more compassion towards our fellow “travellers” and rather than focus on differences, we should focus on the one commonality we have- that is we are all on this journey. Lastly, and perhaps most important it’s a great reminder to enjoy the journey. What an incredible message I thought, it seems to be more of the music we should all be listening to that’s less about the “me” and more about the “we” or “us”. Job well done Tom Cochrane on inspiring positivity!
Here’s the official music video- so you can take a listen for yourself:
4:28-Life is a Journey, Tom Cochrane
And the link from my post: butterflyinspiration2015.wordpress.com
Enjoy the Ride!
Enjoying the journey is such a simple truth, yet important. When you consider that the idea of a journey occurs throughout our lives. Not just in the sense of going on adventures, or searching for meaning, but in learning about who we are, what we’ve come through and sticking in there when things are rough. Where we grow and rise up from our downfalls by dusting ourselves off and carrying this lesson with us. Sometimes though we forget that there is still learning to be done, and become painfully hard on ourselves when things don’t go exactly as planned.
That is life though, there’s ups and downs. Good and bad times. Things we’ve figured out, and things yet to be figured. It’s all part of this wonderful experience we get to live called: life. Also though, it’s a journey, that grows as you grow.
With each new lesson we’re putting under our belt, it adds to the sum total of our expansive experiences, and the never ending journey that they lead us on. There is always something new to learn, sometimes all you have to do is look a little harder and closer to figure it out.
So, why not explore and enjoy the ride- for all it’s worth-, as we continue to learn more about ourselves and what we’re capable of!
“We Don’t Attract What Want, We Attract What We Are”~ James Lane Allen
I have spotted this clever and intriguing quote many times through out my journey without giving it much thought other than my initial impression of: “Hmm, interesting.” It’s message seemed to catch my attention just enough to allow me to read it and move on as I went about my day. Up until recently that is, when out of the blue I spotted it again. As it’s subject was oddly on my mind I couldn’t help but take a second to think about it. I have been pondering this for the past little while- in my own reflection to come up with a conclusion that “somehow I must have been good enough, kind enough and giving enough, to deserve such wonderful things and people in my life.”
Indeed, realizing this has lead me to look closer at how I go about my day but also inspired me to live up to all the fortune I’ve attracted. As I am often astonished about how lucky I am to have the people and experiences I have, my philosophy has become through pure coincidences simply this: Anything good I receive, I shall try (somewhere within my day) to pass it along. You are heading this way, let me open the door for you/hold it; Asked how my day has been and I’ll return the question right to you, along with simply being thankful and showing it. All small things I am trying to do to “pass the good along” and for myself bring out the greater good in me that I attract!
Images from: http://www.ccc.org/give