Accepting our paths and Building on Our Strengths

Figuring out who we are, or what we are meant to be doing can be such a tricky and daunting task (if we make it that). Already out there, the world is influencing who we are without anybody really realizing it. This true, as we continue to be bombarded with images, ideas and notions of what society expects everyone to be like. The trick is to tune into your heart, and listen when it points us in new and exciting directions, or when suddenly your drawn to a particular passion or thing out of the blue. That (my friends) is no coincidence, everything happens for a reason, and there’s significance behind every new opportunity. Your trick is to ask yourself “curious questions”, and figure out what that reason is specifically for you (after all, it is a message only you can decipher and make sense of). This is all part of our journey and discovery into who we are, and what makes us (well) us. Therefore, since each of our paths are individual to us, there can be no “normal” or “expected”- how can those notions exist if we are all different, learn differently and grow at different paces.

Yet, we continue to compare ourselves to one another and find reasons to point out how differences can be such a burden by focusing on where there is weakness. Navigating the world can be such a tricky exploration as all of us are just trying to figure out how we can fit into it’s place. I believe what is most important, is showing each others strengths, and the gifts every one of us have to offer. I’ve had to learn this myself in my very own journey and realized the power in harnessing what I do have rather than on what I wish I had.Just_Be_Youthumb By not letting what sets me back or dwelling on my weaknesses define who I am, I’ve begin reaching my full potential and accepting who I am (whole heartedly). Yes, I’m not perfect, and have lots to learn still, BUT I’m willing to continue to grow and explore without letting how others have labeled my different view on the world define me. Here is the true message:

“Don’t let your limitations- or what we believe to be limitations- define you and stop you from reaching your full potential. Follow your heart, dreams and continue to realize out how amazingly special you are. It is one small part of who you are, there is so much more to who you are that makes you, YOU!”

Embrace all the wonderful traits, strengths and aspects of who you are. Explore those gifts and let them guide you to your true passion- and BE YOU!

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Finding Time for Fun and Family Time

There is nothing better for getting you out of a funk like family (in a lighthearted way). After feeling a little blue and heavy (oddly enough I don’t know why) I was in need of a really, really good lighthearted time which remained a mystery to me. Having spent way too much time dwelling on everything wasn’t getting me anywhere fast and in the right direction. So, in need of a different approach and fun I hesitantly decided to get away for the weekend with family. I dreaded going and convinced myself that mopping around was what’s best (it clearly wasn’t). It turns out that what really was best- my remedIMG_0301y to the blues- was right in front of my very own nose- spend time with family, gain different perspectives, relax, have fun and let loose and take in the unconditional love, support and acceptance you can  receive from family was also an important part of the remedy. Yet all unrealized until I got there. That was what I needed most to remove the funk!

The lesson here then remains that often what we most need is what we occasionally are trying to push away or avoid the most- fighting the message the world is trying to tell us. In truth, sometimes when we have a solid feeling that “oh, this doesn’t feel right!” or “I’m fighting this, but I don’t know why?” it’s often our heart telling us that whatever “it” is, that’s what we need most or should take time out to reevaluate our next move. For me, it was fun and time with family. As I have said before, when we are following our hearts, they will never guide us wrong, and once you tune into your intuition there is new awareness that allows you to ask curious questions as to “why” you are feeling a certain way. So, if you are feeling stretched out and way into our heads; seek out someone or people you know who can help lighten the load and show you  what matters most.

To having fun, finding support and refreshing our psyche!

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The Strength of Believing

So here’s the thing. Normally, I have a million insights and ideas come to me through various points in time but today my mind is as clear as the sky. There comes such a new clarity I feel and acceptance to everything that been happening in my life and to what I’ve been feeling. No deep all encompassing philosophy, insight or thought. It’s as simple and powerful as a pure acceptance and FAITH in what will be– I guess that’s the big difference- knowing how easy it can be if you put worry and anxiety out of your mind, instead choosing to focus on the moments that matter and taking advantage of them to pick-up where you left off after reconnecting with a friend or acquaintance. As if it were just yesterday. Having said that, I’ve also gained a new sense of hope that has proven more valuable than excitement. Excitement is all good and well in the beginning, but it’s not a strong enough emotion to carry you through in mIMG_1013oving forward- “hope” “faith” and “acceptance” however can be as well as helpful and empowering!

So stay hopeful, brave, have faith and most of all BE YOU,

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Creating an Experience

I feel that there is something so magical when every bit of timing comes together into one point or place. It’s a feeling of realizing that the waiting, wondering and hoping has all been worth it. Now sometimes, that does take a bit of work and waiting (as I am learning) but in the end it seems to be worth it in waiting for the right opportunity to present itself. What it comes down to is simply putting that thought or inspiration out there– and from your heart, rather than your head– when we do that it’s hard to go wrong because our heart will always lead us to the right moment- whenever/wherever it may be. Remember, if at first you don’t succeed; try, try again and look closer- the time may not have been right, or at the right opportunity. Ask yourself. Is there AP_perseid_meteor_shower_nt_130809_16x9_992something I could have done differently? By asking ourselves these questions, we come across answers to help plan better and here is where the planning really pays off. When you know that it was your hard work that made the experience, those moments and that time happen by allowing everything to come together in the right moment, then you bring the magic forward and create a truly memorable experience for all. One thing I have to add is creating these experiences doesn’t have to be a huge time commitment or filled with elaborate plans. It can be something as simple as hanging out, watching movies or the stars (in this case). As even I am still learning to take it into account. By making it simple, you leave little room for their worries and chances are  if you are willing to make it easier for others then they may be more willing to say “yes”. Lastly, If it is important to you and something you really want to do, make it happen~ no excuses! You’ll be thankful that you did and allowed the experience to happen or in the least tried (and didn’t regret not trying). Final inspiration: Don’t be afraid to put suggestions out there, you never know where they might lead!

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The Magic of Familiar Friendships

There is something so comforting about reconnecting with a long running friendship that feels like one of your cozy favorite sweaters that’s been through it all with you. As familiar and unexciting as it is, sometimes that’s exactly what we need- the familiarity of something that we can count on to always feel connected.  Also to remind us that when everything seems to be changing, this connection will always be there. Sometimes, all it needs is a little work and patience to become something great supporting us in each new adventure. When things seem to be always changing and we continue to explore ourselves in new ways, that friendship let’s us know that there will always be someone who accepts you exactly who you are- even we don’t-, and has accepted the worst and best parts of who you are without judgment. Reminding us that no matter what you will always have each other, and there is little thinking involved. Trust is formed along the way with the understanding that no matter what you’ll always have each others back. That is the magic of long running friendships, and why it’s important to keep in touch with each other!

*Bloggers  note: New friendships can be exciting too and can keep us young at heart, lively and growing in new ways we didn’t imagine. By having both (old and new) gives us that balance of familiarity yet helps us grow in new unexpected ways. Embrace both because you never know where one or the other will inspire you!

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Celebrating Victories- #2 A New Awareness

A New Awareness going into a New Month

Normally, I don’t like to brag about myself a whole lot but believe that today deserves a victory recognition. This past month in particular has been on the challenging side for me- between balancing schedules, dates and getting accustomed to new stages in transitions it has been full of ups and downs, fun and some not so fun days. This had me in a tailspin for most of it, trying to figure out where I’d land or how/when things would settle down. There was an ever hopefulness that one day all I’ve come through would make sense and  then the realization came it that might not have been within that month. Now, I know why though- because much like the success of finally trying to balance on the surf board- I am coming into a place of not NEEDING it’s going to be okay but knowing. Having endured those waves for this place of new calm and awareness is what’s exciting. Also, this is what I look forward to in the coming month, and what I hope will be like moving forward- but we can’t predict the future,  we can-however- look forward to it with optimism and awareness.

It’s exciting, awesome and empowering to realize this, even more so to share this with all of you. I hope this helps inspire you to keep pushing on and moving forward. There is no looking back, only forward and present!


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Answer to a Question:

“What does keeping your options open and open communication mean?”

For a while I’ve been toying with this question, probably since the first I heard the advice of keeping something “open” as if it’s as easy as holding a door open with a wedge or opening a can/jar of something (which I admit isn’t always easy, depending on your grip) but at least can be straight forward. Turn a certain direction, wait for a pop and viola it’s open. So upon hearing this particular action verb (“open”) in a deeper context perplexed me- perhaps because I envisioned that what I thought was being open was more like “ajar” or “closed”- as if you’re not following that path then the alternative current action would be that it’s/your actions are closed. Anyways, after investigating for further understanding or some clarification I learned that in this deeper context can either mean “open- meaning the lines of communication still back and forth going between two people” or “open- being honest with how you are feeling and yourself” which after some inner soul searching it also means for me to listen to what your heart is saying and trust that. *Darn* I thought “there’s that tricky “T” word, popping back up again. Something, I’m sure we all struggle with- being honest with ourselves, being with what your feelings are essentially all comes down to trusting your heart!?!

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Reminiscent and Childhood Memories

There’s something about returning to those wondrous places of youth-especially during the summer months-that brings back a carefree, adventurous, “I can do anything” or “everything is going to be alright” spirit that we may lose as adults when our world becomes filled with responsibilities, work and other not so fun mature things that add years to our lives. Often forgetting to have fun or remembering what it is or what it could IMG_1002look like;  yet revisiting that is when taking that extra side trip to your favorite candy store or ice cream store, buying that one favorite toy after a long week comes in handy to google_on_my_etch_a_sketch_by_pikajane-d3846dyremind us of our youth and inject some fun into our adult lives. Allowing us the much deserved and needed chance to remain young at heart. For me, this has been the many (many) trips up to our family cottage with occasional stops at the old Candy store, the perfect burger joint and/ nights at the drive in movies. What’s important is allowing yourself to experience that pleasure, and remember that life doesn’t always have to be all work, it can be play too. Think back to the last time you enjoyed something frivolous  and innocently playful (no strings attached) just for the sake of it? If it’s taking you awhile to come up with something, perhaps it’s time to reconnect with that experience…

So have fun, revisit that younger you and allow your heart to be light-even if just for a short while both the present you and younger you will be thankful!

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